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Post by Sayari's other half on Jan 19, 2010 9:56:36 GMT -5
Lol Andrew people say I'm scary Imagine how I feel when I'm being random. I only go direct if I'm really pressed to know something and can't stand not knowing any longer. But yeah,Jayda if this boy drives you mad,corner him and beat him 'til he tells you only joking only joking!
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Post by Jayda on Jan 19, 2010 11:02:26 GMT -5
Ahahahaha! I WANT TO DO THAT SOOOO BADLY! xD Oh man... I guess I'll have to see if that happens Right now, it doesn't appear that way, but he seems to be coming around a bit more! I left him alone for a while and now HE'S texting ME instead of the other way around, etc... Things MAY be looking up Maybe... I will never say they are until they are because I always jinx it xD
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Post by hockeydude on Jan 19, 2010 16:56:06 GMT -5
Ha your situation is starting to sound like mine except further in the future. I'd say keep doing what you're doing. Let him hold the weight for awhile. I'd say occasionally start the text convos just so the situation doesn't become lop-sided the other way, but see what happens!
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Post by Jayda on Jan 20, 2010 14:23:37 GMT -5
Hahaha. Well, I hope yours works out a lot better then mine has, so far. Just don't act like Levi did The girl will be glad! Thanks for the advice Yeah, it used to feel like our relationship was 50-50 in the beginning... then after he changed his mind it was about 20-80ish... now it's around 30-70... I'm pulling most of the weight. But he's getting better, I think. Now if I can only get him to call me again. He hasn't called me on the phone alone since November and he used to call me every night. It's ridiculous!
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Post by Jayda on Feb 11, 2010 19:09:46 GMT -5
So... I KNOW that I'm going to sound whiny in this post, so please forgive me in advance!
Levi asked Kate to Mormon Prom. Kate basically rubbed it in my face, like she does with all of the other "events"/dates he asks her on. I'm so mad and upset! Now I'm 99.9999999% positive that I won't be asked to prom. I think I'll throw an anti-prom. I don't care if I'm by myself, I just don't want to go to watch him and her dance all night and little old me without a date. I don't want to.
Anyway, I'm just sick and tired of her doing this, and him leading me on. I'm so over this whole situation. I just need to move on from them both, honestly, which is hard, but I think that it'll be the only thing that'll help me.
I just wish that my best friends lived closer. My cousin lives in Utah, my best friend (who's like my twin) lives across the state, and my other great friend lives 20+ minutes away. I have one guy friend in my ward that I can talk to about almost anything, but everyone else I just... I'm friends with them, but I don't trust them.
I don't know. This whole thing sucks. I wanted to be asked to prom so badly and now it appears that it won't happen.
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Post by Andrew the Penguin on Feb 11, 2010 20:41:12 GMT -5
... >_> But I live in a different time zone, not across the state. Jk. ^_^ sorry, I couldn't resist. Anyways, you sound just as whiny as Klaus when he didn't want to be in prison for his birthday, but because he was, he wanted a deus ex machina to get out instead. *points at head* Lemony snicket fan. So yeah. ^_^ That means you sound NOT WHINY AT ALL!!! Well, maybe a little bit, but about the same percentage of it is whiny as is your sureness that you'll get asked out to the prom. Think of it this way: If I lived nearby and was older, I'd totally ask you out. You're stinking awesome.
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Post by Jayda on Feb 11, 2010 22:31:48 GMT -5
Bahahaha. Nice! I've never read Lemony Snicket... Is that the depressing series one? Yeah, I don't know if I'll ever read them xD Haha. Thanks! I'm glad I don't sound whiny. I've been told that I'm awesome, but apparently guys don't think so enough to ask me out! Haha. But it's the thought that counts, right?
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Post by ldsgirl Aka Sayari on Feb 11, 2010 22:50:05 GMT -5
So... I KNOW that I'm going to sound whiny in this post, so please forgive me in advance! Levi asked Kate to Mormon Prom. Kate basically rubbed it in my face, like she does with all of the other "events"/dates he asks her on. I'm so mad and upset! Now I'm 99.9999999% positive that I won't be asked to prom. I think I'll throw an anti-prom. I don't care if I'm by myself, I just don't want to go to watch him and her dance all night and little old me without a date. I don't want to. Anyway, I'm just sick and tired of her doing this, and him leading me on. I'm so over this whole situation. I just need to move on from them both, honestly, which is hard, but I think that it'll be the only thing that'll help me. I just wish that my best friends lived closer. My cousin lives in Utah, my best friend (who's like my twin) lives across the state, and my other great friend lives 20+ minutes away. I have one guy friend in my ward that I can talk to about almost anything, but everyone else I just... I'm friends with them, but I don't trust them. I don't know. This whole thing sucks. I wanted to be asked to prom so badly and now it appears that it won't happen. I'm sorry to hear that this dream of yours to go with a date to the prom may not happen! I know that right now it means a great deal to you and that it will take some time to heal the pain! Hopefully you can partly take your mind off of it with another activity. I would not waste any more time on this Levi guy either!
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Post by Jayda on Feb 11, 2010 22:54:28 GMT -5
Yeah. I've been thinking about just giving up on him. I believe that I will. I'm not going to talk to him unless he talks to me and see if he gets the hint. Honestly, in a way I hope that he does, but then again I hope he doesn't. Confusing, right? He and Kate are a perfect match - they don't seem to care. At least not enough. I'm pretty sure that I'm just going to step away. I have next year for prom, so hopefully I'll have someone else by then, but I was hoping that maybe I could go this year. Who knows. Obviously this all is happening for a reason. It'll benefit me somehow. But it doesn't mean that it hurts any less
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Post by ldsgirl Aka Sayari on Feb 11, 2010 23:23:31 GMT -5
Yeah. I've been thinking about just giving up on him. I believe that I will. I'm not going to talk to him unless he talks to me and see if he gets the hint. Honestly, in a way I hope that he does, but then again I hope he doesn't. Confusing, right? He and Kate are a perfect match - they don't seem to care. At least not enough. I'm pretty sure that I'm just going to step away. I have next year for prom, so hopefully I'll have someone else by then, but I was hoping that maybe I could go this year. Who knows. Obviously this all is happening for a reason. It'll benefit me somehow. But it doesn't mean that it hurts any less I understand your feelings in this situation. Hopefully, if you don't have a date for this years prom......you will have for next years! If it is any consolation to you......I'd gladly trade my prom experiences for your writing skills and experience! In ten or fifteen years from now.........which experience will have the greatest influence on you future?
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Post by Jayda on Feb 11, 2010 23:29:16 GMT -5
Yes, hopefully! I just need to be positive. Next year, if I don't, I'll go anyway. I just don't want to go this year, alone, if I have to watch him and her dancing to every song and such. That would only make it worse, I think.
Haha. That's true... Writing will... But, it doesn't mean that I don't want to go to prom with a date! But I get what you're saying. I really should just focus on what will advance me in the world, but it's hard when some of my biggest childhood dreams seem to come crashing down around me at the moment. I'm just going to try. I'm going to work hard, and get far in life, and Levi might regret all of this when he's older. This is happening for a reason. I just have to have some trust, I guess.
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Post by hockeydude on Feb 11, 2010 23:48:08 GMT -5
I know what you mean. It's good to get ahead in life but it's also good to establish those memories. The key ones you remember almost form like a mental scrapbook you can re-live.
I'd advise you do what I did with Ashley (I think I posted that whole scenario somewhere on here?). Just let it go. You're probably going to want things to be the other way but I think you just need to convince yourself it's not going to happen. Once it hits it'll hit hard for a moment but from there on out it's clear skies. Ashley has gotten only better looking and more popular but I can honestly say I'm not even attracted to her anymore. Somehow I just got over it. I don't avoid her or anything I've just become comfortable with that fact, and it sounds awful at first, but there's light at the other side of the tunnel. There's a chance he might pull you back before too, but I'd say if he's going to pull weight now he's got to pull all the weight.
My prom situation isn't going very well either though. I kind of had three girls in mind and of course they were some of the first three to go. I'm not just going to ask a girl for the sake of going. I don't think it's fair to bring a girl when I know I'm not going to be able to give her my full attention. So I don't know what I'm going to do. I honestly don't want to go all that badly, but I have enough of a reputation where I should be a big boy and just ask a girl to prom...
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Post by Jayda on Feb 12, 2010 10:24:26 GMT -5
Yeah, I totally agree.
Yes. He needs to pull all of the weight at this point. I mean, he's one of my best friends, but if he isn't willing to work for our friendship like I have been then there's really no point, is there? I shouldn't have to do all of the work make things turn out right. That goes for Kate, too. If she wants our friendship to work then he needs to pull some major weight.
You really should. I'm sure there are plenty of girls out there like me that are just waiting for someone to ask them.
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Post by Jayda on Mar 20, 2010 22:08:00 GMT -5
I just can't handle it anymore. I'm about ready to breakdown because of this whole messed up situation. I feel bad about it, because I feel like I'm being a brat, but I can't handle it right now! Everythign is so complicated in so many areas of my life and the drama that's going on right now is too difficult to handle.
Levi asked Kate to prom, so now I'm not getting asked because he was the only guy that could've asked me. Tonight was a multi-stake dance and they thought I was mad or something and Levi didn't ask me to dance, which he normally does once, and he danced with Kate at least five times. Then Kate, Nessa and Brian asked me if I was mad at separate times and I just... I could've cried right there. I tried to put on a good face, but I guess that it wasn't that great?
Ugh, anyway, I don't know what to do. I keep thinking that I'm over it but then I realize that I'm not.
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Post by Michael on Mar 21, 2010 14:49:16 GMT -5
Jayda, things like this happend to me over and over again.. started when I first turned 14 and went to dances.
You have to be stronge and if no one else truely cares for you.. just know God does.. something I leanred pass the years.
To me it seems like his being a jerk, not asking you to dance at lest once.. as he does normally you said
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Post by Erik Slack on Mar 21, 2010 18:35:04 GMT -5
Eric, Jayda's right man. There are always wall-flowers who don't think anyone will ask them out and how awesome of a memory it would be for one of them and for you if you could just ask one and try to make her smile for an entire evening? You could do it, cuz you're awesome like that. That repsonsibility goes with the name dude Jayda, time is a good healer for a broken heart. It's hard sometimes, but it's best to just move on and remember the most important people in your life: your family. Friends tend to go their seperate ways, but your family will always be there.
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Post by Jayda on Mar 22, 2010 9:44:05 GMT -5
Thanks for the inspiring words, guys. I'll definitely remember all of this and try to keep my head held high It just gets to be so much after a while that I can't help it. So, Levi texted me yesterday morning and said that the reason he didn't ask me to dance was because he thought I was "upset" at him, in his own words. I can understand that, but he got that information from someone else so I don't understand why he'd believe it. I swear that he got it from Kate, so my feelings for her are just kind of fading at this point. At least, I hope they are. We have things figured out, but he wants Bygones to just be Bygones and I don't know if I can do that so quickly. I mean, all of the crap I've been through since August is ridiculous and since I've been sixteen and known him I've been at the happiest and saddest in my entire life, I think. I just asked him to be patient with me while I try to let that happen, but I do really want to be friends. I think praying about it and pouring my heart out to Heavenly Father really helped me last night, too. Thanks bunches guys! You all rock!
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Post by Jayda on May 1, 2010 20:39:19 GMT -5
Sorry guys :/ More drama.
I CANNOT understand the nerve of some people.
Last night was Nessa's sweet sixteen party (she's one of my best friends) and Levi, Kate, and Brian were all invited. Well, Brian broke off things with Kate so he and I are in the exact same position, except I'm just a little further ahead in the experience. He won't date Kate because it hurts him too much, and I won't date Levi for the same reasons. But that doesn't mean that we still don't hurt...
Anyway, last night was the party. Levi and Kate were practically all up on each other all night. I was totally expecting them to start making out right in front of Brian and me! It was so rude and distracting and I didn't really have fun while all of that was going on! They were totally rude and inconsiderate and clearly they're not the friends I wish they were.
Then I had to deal with Kate later since we both slept over with Nessa. She tried to get sympathy because Brian was really upset and texting Nessa about it.
UGH. Brian and I are not the only ones upset about all of this, either. So many of our other friends are so upset about all of this. It was so ridiculous!
I'm glad to know that I'm not worth the decency of hiding their PDA for me. I'm glad to know that it's okay to hurt me. I'm glad to know that Kate's willing to throw away her friend of ten years and an AMAZING guy so that she can have fun and be a player. Levi and Kate are perfect for each other - they're both players and they don't care what they lose. Way to go, guys. You're great.
Ugh.
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Post by Jayda on May 1, 2010 20:40:06 GMT -5
Oh, and on top of all of that, I have to deal with prom in a week. Why do they have to go together?! Poor Brian has to go with a girl that's getting ready with Kate, too! So he really has to see Kate and Levi together, which just makes me mad me off even more!
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Post by Erik Slack on May 2, 2010 14:59:13 GMT -5
Keep strong Jayda, you're an awesome girl, love will come again, probably when you're not expecting it.
The things that cause pain will always be there--right up in your face sometimes like this Levi--nagging at you. But you know what? You don't have to pay any attention to them; in fact, thank them because they make you stronger by forcing you to go on living life anyways. How do you go on living life when you're hurting so much? One day at a time, always concentrating on the things that bring you joy. Protect and be grateful for those things and eventually you'll forget the pain.
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Post by hockeydude on May 2, 2010 21:53:25 GMT -5
Yeah, I can totally see your position and say that you have a right to be upset. But... I don't think you want to be upset. I still think the problem here is Levi (if that was kind of a "no duh" statement then I apologize ). Like I said before, I would find a way to get over him, because that's where all your problems seem to be stemming from. I don't know exactly how you should go about it, that's a personal thing, but there's a girl in my school where it was like this, and ever since the day I got over her it hasn't been an issue. And what's better is that he's the guy, so if he changes his mind and comes for you, he'll tell you. Keep on the lookout, go to EFY, etc. You'll run into a handful of other candidates, I can almost guarantee it. You won't believe how meeting new faces can change a situation.
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Post by Michael on May 2, 2010 22:14:16 GMT -5
His right... go to efy you'll fine COW's (crush of the week) when u first meet the guys in your group. happened with me but they were girls lol..
And everyone at efy are SOO welcomely, nice, FUN to talk to, classes are amazing, if you like to sing join the choir and sing at the program on the 4th night.
You'll have a blast.
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Post by Jayda on May 3, 2010 13:28:50 GMT -5
Erik - thanks. I don't think that I'm at a point yet where I can thank them, but I wish I was! And I want to move on more than anything. I hate all of this.
Eric - Very true. He is the problem. Kate's adding to it daily, almost, but Levi is the main issue here. If I could get over him I SOOO would! I hate feeling like this.
Michael - yeah, that's what I'm hoping for! I can't wait for EFY because it's one of my big chances to find someone else!
Okay, well, yesterday Levi and Nessa were texting about all of this drama. Well, Nessa sent Levi my book about all of this, Catch Me, I'm Falling Too Fast (with my permission) and he read the last chapter, I think. He texted me about all of this today and now it seems like he's trying to lay the blame on me, which is most certainly is NOT. I'm not the one doing all of this crap in front of people who it hurts! It just ticks me off.
So I told him that if he has the time this week that he should call me so that maybe we can actually get something done, because texting about it won't solve anything.
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Post by shadow on May 5, 2010 15:37:50 GMT -5
What i would tell ppl in my school is to just avoid whoever is causing the problem and ignore everything they say. However in my school anyone who causes problems is someone that someone with common sense would avoid, of course thats in short supply here (So rare its almost a super power). However considering that they are members idk if you would want to do that or not, its just an option.
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Post by Jayda on May 10, 2010 10:09:45 GMT -5
Yeah, I've been trying to avoid them lately. Levi texted me today and I don't know if I should respond or not! Anyway, I went to prom on Saturday... It was much better than I expected! I avoided Levi and Kate for the most part, I got to take my non-member girl friend with... It was fun! I'm a little surprised, yes Haha.
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Post by z on Jun 24, 2010 15:24:47 GMT -5
This thread makes me remember when I was that age, too (okay--not that long ago at all). I always had a hard time dating casually, especially because what I really wanted was a really good friend who I trusted completely. I don't know why I was (am) that way, but I was. I met a girl (first real member friend I ever had), over time fell completely in love, and then she dear-johned me while I was on a mission. In hindsight, I wish I hadn't done it. It made things more complicated then, on a mission, and now. It's hard thinking that much in advance when you feel the way you do when you do. I'm probably making some mistake now that I'll regret in 5 years. But hey, what can you do?
As for your situation, I would say: They are acting so silly. It's just silliness. I think people have a right to more respect than that. I think you should demand it (sounds like you sort of are now). Perhaps not verbally, but if they are going to treat you like that, then you don't really want them around, and Levi is definitely not a guy you want to date. He isn't worth it. Don't worry about the dating thing, and concentrate on finding good friends. The dating part will drop into place, usually when you are worrying least about it.
If prom was fun, you are doing things right!
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