xkyairax
Child Of God
I'm through accepting limits cause someone says they're so
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Post by xkyairax on Aug 17, 2010 2:40:37 GMT -5
Alright, I'm pretty clueless on what to do. There is some pretty fun stuff going on in this post so bare with me. yeah? So in my last post I told you guys how my sister-in-law has been trying to set me up on a blind date. I said I didn't want to date because I'm just not interested. but the truth is I'm a lesbian. So know you know the backstory. so finally I got sick of her bothering me so I said "okay". So i went on this date, and he was a nice guy...but I think I made it quite clear that I'm not interested in a relationship(of corse he thinks its because I'm busy with school and junk ) Now, my sister in law keeps asking me(through facebook) when(not if) I'm going to see him again. and my parents REALLY like him. They are all like "Are you going to go out with that boy again? He was so polite and (enter ridiculous talk of marriage and kids with said boy)" TALK ABOUT JUMPING THE GUN!! I went on one date and they are already talking about marriage and kids? what is wrong with my parents? why are the so invested in this? is it because they suspect I'm gay? What should I do? This whole closet situation sucks and I want to tell them but I have no idea how to even bring it up. Yeah, that went on for a while, and I didn't really want to ask this here, but as far as advise goes you guys are pretty good. so yeah, help?
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Post by Jayda on Aug 17, 2010 10:31:36 GMT -5
Wow. Yeah, seriously, talk about jumping the gun! Well, I've had similar experience with this kind of issue (not myself... someone close to me) so hopefully I can help a little bit. If they suspect you're gay, just as I had suspected with the close person in my life, then they won't be too surprised if you come out. And if they're the kind of family I'd hope they are, then they'd accept you for who you are, regardless of whether or not they agree with that kind of lifestyle, just as I did. I do have to ask, though... how old are you? I have a reason, trust me Anyway, besides the gay thing... Talk to your parents. Tell them that it's your personal life and you just aren't interested in a relationship at this point in time. If the conversation goes more into detail, if they want specific reasons... the truth might help. Don't make up stuff... but if you aren't comfortable with telling them your real reasons, then give them real excuses like school and everything. I don't know. You're Mormon, right? I'm not sure if your parents would be as open as others... I know a few people who came out to their Mormon parents and it was a different story with each of them. You know your parents better than any of us do... Are they open-minded? Anyway, I say you tell them all to stop. Be kind about it at first, but if they persist you need to set your foot down. I'd be pretty much upset at this point, to be quite frank. If they continue on and on you need to be honest and tell them to stop because it really isn't any of their business. I hope I've helped some? I don't know. I hope so!
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xkyairax
Child Of God
I'm through accepting limits cause someone says they're so
Posts: 19
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Post by xkyairax on Aug 17, 2010 23:09:29 GMT -5
I'm 18 My parents are kind of open minded but , to tell you the truth, it depends on they day and who they are with. They act differently depending on the people around them. Especially my mom.
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Post by shadow on Aug 18, 2010 16:34:20 GMT -5
Oh both my parents do the same thing, and they both complain about the other doing it and claim they dont do it themselves...
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Post by Jayda on Aug 18, 2010 17:31:27 GMT -5
Mmk. I know what you mean. Well, I hope I helped somewhat. I think if it comes up and it's a good day/time you should be open and honest with them. If not about being gay, then about everything else (how you're feeling pressured and you aren't ready for a relationship, that sort of thing).
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