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Post by Jayda on Apr 6, 2010 22:48:17 GMT -5
Is this a good place to put this? Sorry if it isn't!
Anyway, I need some help. I just signed up for Mormon Prom which is on May 8th because there were only 5 tickets left... But i don't even know if I'm going. Here's why:
1) I don't know HOW I'll get the money to buy a prom dress. 2) Kate and Levi are going to be there as a date so I'll have to watch them the entire time if I hang out with the people I hang out with normally (if that sentence makes sense?). 3) I'm the only person I know that doesn't have a date. 4) I can just picture myself depressed the entire day and night because a) I'll be getting ready alone, b) I'll be going alone, and c) I'll be THERE alone. I have no one to go with.
I think there's more, but those are off the top of my head. So, should I go? Should I bother spending all of that money on a dress when I don't have the money to do so with the possibility of me going home early because I'm not having a good time? I mean, because of how tight money is I'd probably end up wearing the same dress two years in a row, anyway, but... I don't know.
Help!
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Post by shadow on Apr 7, 2010 16:59:10 GMT -5
1. Get a bunch of duct tape, theres a 1000 dollar scholarship for the best prom outfit made out of duct tape 2. I dont really know what to say other than I maybe theyll get in a huge fight 3. It doesnt matter if you dont have a date, perhaps some guy is going that also doesnt have a date and you two end up really good friends or more *wink wink* 4. Remember that you always have the holy ghost so your never alone ps This was supposed to be light hearted to cheer you up, sorry if it didnt
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Post by Jayda on Apr 7, 2010 19:56:40 GMT -5
It did kind of cheer me up Thanks! I'm definitely just trying to think about it to figure out what I'm going to do.
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Post by hockeydude on Apr 7, 2010 21:49:26 GMT -5
I'm not doing prom this year, so if it makes you feel any better we're in the same boat. It's kind of embarassing at times when people are like," Who are you going with?", because I'm generally one of those people that does things. But in the long run I think I'll be happy with my decision. And while my reasons are different than yours, they relate. I had three girls in mind and I was too slow to all of them. Then all my friends that are girls got asked, cancelling out the option for "going as friends." I've turned down some indirect offers (seriously, I know the guy's supposed to ask, but if I say I don't want to go and you want to change my mind, ask me directly) and it's for the same reason as you: I don't want to spend $300-$400 on a single night that might be "Eh, okay." So what I'm saying I guess is that if you don't want to go, don't. Prom is kind of a status thing so I know it might be a bit embarassing right now (lol believe me, I just want prom to be over so people will stop asking me about it!), but you'll avoid what could be a very emotionally draining night and save a ton of money in the process! On the other hand, if you want to go, then go! Just don't do it because you're worried people might think you're stupid or something. You'll regret it later if you do it for that reason, speaking from experience. PS: Generally if people don't have a date, they don't run around proclaiming it to the world. There might be people like me around you that act natural when prom comes up (like they're going) and avoid the questions that show they aren't. I'm sure it just feels like you're the only one.
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Post by Jayda on Apr 7, 2010 22:00:04 GMT -5
At least I'm not alone! In all honesty, that does kind of make me feel better. If only we actually knew each other! Haha. I'm still thinking about it. I was really excited (I think?) to go until I found out that Kate and Levi were going together and all of the guys I know asked other girls. I've asked everyone, and all of my friends (including all of the guys) have dates. So, there's no chance on me asking anyone to be my date, even if just as friends, sadly. I'm thinking I might not. I don't have enough money to buy a dress that I'll wear once, maybe twice, and I think it probably would be very emotionally draining. BUT, the thought that keeps crossing my mind is what IF I do have fun, you know? I won't know until I get there, and maybe I will, but what if I don't? Things are so complicated! I can't stand being a teenager xD Thanks for the help
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Post by Michael on Apr 7, 2010 22:17:09 GMT -5
Dang it, I saw this last night and wasn't sure to say anything cuz it was under YW.. anyways from what they said I would of said the same, go and have fun
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Post by ldsgirl Aka Sayari on Apr 7, 2010 22:57:58 GMT -5
Going to the prom can be a fun experience, but in a year or so it won't really be that big of a deal. If money is tight......several communities offer slightly used prom dresses for very little money. In my city for example......a number of the girls will donate their prom dresses to a thrift store or collection drive so that others might benefit from them. That's where mine went too! Most of the dresses are nearly brand new and are resold for a fraction of the original price! PS: no one will be able to tell the difference of where you got your dress unless you chose to let them know!
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Post by Kohaku on Apr 7, 2010 23:48:25 GMT -5
I've gone to one formal dance the whole time I've been in high school bought a $250 and used money from a summer job i had... my date dropped out on me the night before so some kid from my work ended up taking me when he found out my date had dropped out ... I think maybe if things hadn't been how they were I would of had fun.... now i can think of a million better things i could have done with that money ... I've worn the dress twice since that dance for Halloween and who knows maybe i'll keep it for one of my future kids.
I honestly think the funnest dances I've been to are the ones where I'm not on a date but just with a group of people.
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Post by Jayda on Apr 8, 2010 9:51:50 GMT -5
Sayari - that's really true... I'll have to go look around at thrift shops. I don't know why I didn't think of them before. Hopefully we'll be able to find my size! We have been looking at Ross, which has a bunch of cheap clothes too, but I can never find the right one. Amber - that's probably very true. I would go in a group with a bunch of people... But the bunch of people I would've gone with are the ones that will be around Levi and Kate :/ Things are so complicated! xD Haha. I'll have to see this Sunday who all is going in my ward to figure out who I'll go with, if I do go. I think that if my mom and I go looking for dresses and find the perfect one that that will be a sign for me to go Thanks for the help guys!
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Post by Remove on May 7, 2010 15:24:48 GMT -5
I have 3 prom dresses I bought at the VOA for under $20.00 each. My fav costed $14.00 !!
(...not like I'll ever get asked to go to prom..but i wanted some just in case.)
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Post by Jayda on May 10, 2010 10:18:30 GMT -5
Lucky girl! I bought my dress for $20 It wasn't too formal, but it was pretty! I like it Anyway, prom was MUCH better than expected! I went with one of my best girl friends, Gerda, and we made a night of it! I avoided Kate and Levi... but now I have no idea what to do with them xD Levi texted me today and I don't know if I should respond or ignore him so that he gets the message? Problem is, I'm not quite sure what the message is... Bahaha.
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Post by Michael on May 10, 2010 20:45:27 GMT -5
Haha, maybe it wouldn't hurt it read it?... idk lol..
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Post by Jayda on May 11, 2010 14:16:38 GMT -5
Well, I read it xD What I mean was I didn't know if his message meant that he wanted to talk about serious stuff or whatever. I texted him back because I thought he was going to text me about prom, but he didn't. So once the conversation kind of died I just stopped texting him. I'm going to do what Brian is doing with Kate Brian and I have been texting a lot lately. YAY! Haha.
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Post by Michael on May 11, 2010 15:12:34 GMT -5
That's nice.... is Brian single? haha
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Post by Jayda on May 11, 2010 16:15:02 GMT -5
Haha, yes That's part of why I'm so happy about texting him. Today when I asked him if he felt better he said this: "I'm so glad you asked You're always so thoughtful and sensitive." Then he went onto explaining his horrible day. Isn't he sweet?! Okay, I just need to stop hoping and wait and see what happens. I don't know what'll happen, and I don't want to get my hopes up and then have them knocked down again!
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Post by hockeydude on May 11, 2010 20:08:28 GMT -5
Probably a safe move however unencouraging that might sound. Just play it natural, the more natural a relationship the better. Yeah, I'd go with what you did. If he can't hold up a conversation than let it go. Save the enthusiasm for someone that doesn't give you mixed signals.
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Post by Jayda on May 11, 2010 21:19:41 GMT -5
Yep He told me tonight that I've been the only thing that's helped him through this so far, that he wishes I was in his ward especially instead of Kate, and that the next time he sees me he's going to give me a BIG hug! He hasn't hugged me before That made me happy! Haha. Yep. Well, I mean, he can, and I usually just say something and he brings up another subject if the conversation is dying. I'm just trying to keep things really smoothed over until after EFY. I'm carpooling down with him and his sisters, and I'm rooming with one of his sisters, soooo... yeah. Otherwise I wouldn't really be trying anymore. Thanks Eric!
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