zenith
Youth of Zion
Come, and let us forge your armor, and let us wear it together, we will be ready in that last war.
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Post by zenith on Oct 13, 2010 23:24:57 GMT -5
Good evening everyone.
As a side note, I am sorry for my infrequency here. Truthfully, I visit often to check up, but rarely post. I am glad to here what you say.
Anyway, my predicament is in a way, it seems like I have an inner rage. I am mad at nearly everyone. It doesn't matter where I am, or who I am with. I am just annoyed with them. Regretfully saying this, I guess I feel like Squidward to an extreme level. I am not sure why I am mad, but it seems to be only with people I met/know in real life. I suppose everyone has friends online, what do you think this forum is?, and I don't seem angry with people I met only online. Besides praying/reading the scriptures, are there insights anyone can provide.
I really don't want ulcers, and although I would never harm someone without righteous reason, I don't want to snap. Regardless of who it is, family, friends, school mates, even church members.
Anything is appreciated.
Thanks, Zenith - Brooklyn Rage!
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Post by Jayda on Oct 14, 2010 0:05:52 GMT -5
I'm glad that you want help That's always the first step in the right direction, with any issue/problem. Well, I used to have inner rage a lot. Mostly when I was younger (some stuff happened, and I guess I lashed out) but I still did. I didn't handle it like I should've, but I got through things. Yours might not be something that needs time, though. There are a couple of things I think I'll mention in this post to try and help you. One part will be spiritual, and the other will be a way to help with it in a "worldly"/temporal way. I'll start with the spiritual stuff. When stuff happened with my family a couple/few months ago I had anger issues, to the point where I would throw my stuffed animals across the room in my sleep. I'll tell you what I did to try and help. I'm not going to necessarily skip scripture study and prayer, since those are necessary, but I'll mostly focus on the other things What I did to try and get rid of my anger was the following: I said a LONG, long, long prayer. Mine probably lasted anywhere between thirty minutes to an hour. After that I turned on my MP3 player/CD player and played The Mormon Tabernacle Choir to help invite the spirit and calm myself. Play soothing, calming music that will invite the spirit - no rock, pop, country, etcetera. Classical or church music are the best options. While I listened to that, I sang along, hummed along, and read my scriptures. I didn't just flip to random pages - I either read my favorite chapters in the scriptures (my favorite chapters in the scriptures at the moment are D&C 121-122) or I looked up scriptures based on my current emotions (anger, having no patience, etcetera) and I focused on calming myself down. You have to be alone for any of this to work. After you read your scriptures and do all of this, if you don't feel any more calm than before get on your knees and pray again. Earnestly pray, beg for Heavenly Father to help take your anger away. You have to be dilligent... As I told Michael, you can't occasionally say a prayer and read your scriptures and expect incredible results. You have to be consistent. So if you aren't saying prayers morning and night and reading your scriptures I recommend you start tonight. Don't let anything keep you from doing these things. I find that when I'm too lazy or selfish to get on my knees and pray at night or in the morning I end up having a worse day. You'll really start seeing the blessings, as small as they may be, when you focus on pleasing the Lord and seeking His blessings. Now, other then that, read the New Era and/or the Ensign. Go to lds.org and look up talks on anger management, patience, or any other topic that relates to you. Read them. Study them. Take their advice and try to apply what they say to your own life. What they say are inspired words by God Himself. If you are consistent and diligent you can really see amazing blessings and results. These alone may not help the problem entirely. I know that that's already a lot of work. But if you really want to manage this problem (though I'm not sure if it's something you'll be able to get rid of entirely) you need to be willing to work and prove to the Lord that you're willing to do all that He asks of you. If you do all of that consistently and you still aren't seeing results, continue to do them and add something else. Read books by the General Authorities (there are some amazing ones by Henry B. Eyring and President Hinckley). Talk to your Bishop. You don't have to wait until you do something really bad to talk to him, you know He's always there for you, even if you need advice on what college to attend, or what choice to make concerning family matters. It really is great how often he's there for you, no matter what. Ask a trusted priesthood holder to give you a blessing. A normal blessing at first, and eventually, if you feel the need, ask for a blessing with the oil. That really did help me. There still is so much that you can do, besides all of that, but those are the "basics", if you want to call them that. Now onto the "temporal" ideas that I have. What you seem to be exhibiting is either anger management issues, or depression... I'm not psychologist, but my sister is dealing with those same angry issues as you and she's dealing with severe clinical depression. You don't necessarily have to hate and despise yourself to be depressed, I don't think. I'd say that if you can, go to a doctor and tell them about these problems. See what they recommend. They'll possibly refer you to a doctor in the profession of psychology and you can go to them, they can evaluate you and diagnose you and figure out what the next step is. They may put you on medication, or recommend therapy. It all just depends on if this really is something that can be aided by doctors. Heavenly Father put doctors and medicine on this earth to help us, and sometimes praying and reading scriptures and doing what we need to do for our spiritual selves isn't enough to help with illnesses or diseases, you know? There may be underlying issues, things that have happened to you to cause this that you haven't dealt with. I don't know. You would know better than me. I hope that I've helped at least somewhat!
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zenith
Youth of Zion
Come, and let us forge your armor, and let us wear it together, we will be ready in that last war.
Posts: 57
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Post by zenith on Oct 14, 2010 23:18:45 GMT -5
Thank you Jayda. I will do what I need to do. It may sound small, but thank you very much.
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Post by ldsgirl Aka Sayari on Oct 15, 2010 0:20:17 GMT -5
Thank you Jayda. I will do what I need to do. It may sound small, but thank you very much. Hi zenith! I hope that Jayda's advice will help you! I found it to be very informative and I want to thank her for all of the hard work that she put into her post!
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Post by Jayda on Oct 15, 2010 11:53:35 GMT -5
You're welcome Zenith! And thank you Jenni That means a lot
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