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Post by Michael on Jul 30, 2010 14:06:29 GMT -5
Okay, so cuz of AS I don't have many friends... easy to get them but then all stop talking to me slowly after, here is a little thing about AS •a developmental disorder that affects a persons ability to understand other people and socially interact with them. People with AS, while having trouble making eye contact, are unable to read and respond to social cues and body language AS isn't all about that what I just said, it got many other things, which I have. Anyways Spencer and his 4 brothers are my friends, Spencer's cosuin got Austim, a high level of it so he can't live a normal life, get a job, family, school. Hunter is my newest friend his guy from my ward, him and his younger bro who just turned a teacher are my friends as well. (Spencer, been a friend since I was 15, back in 2008) Aubrey stop talking to me back in Apirl... last time we spoke was on the date. Rachael I knowen since the school year back in 2009, she's homeschool like me and LDS. I worried and thought about she would stop talking to me... been like that for months. two nights ago I told her my fare from facebook chat. her reposne was ""Of course I'm not going to just stop talking to you Mike!! I think you are such an amaZing guy that is so much fun to be around and I definitely would be so hurt if I ever lost you! " I'm very glad she won't be like the rest (Not Hunter, Spencer and their brothers, but the others) Me and Rachael hung out before I asked her, the same night before I told her she said she wanted to hang out more etc
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Post by shadow on Jul 30, 2010 20:48:02 GMT -5
hey don't forget about us michael
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Post by Erik Slack on Jul 31, 2010 1:31:53 GMT -5
Hey Mike!
Hmm...what exactly does AS stand for anyway? I wish you luck in overcoming AS so that you can one day enjoy being more sociable and thus be able to attract and maintain friendships more easily. I bet you will overcome it. Ask Heavenly Father for help. Nothing is too big or small that He won't help you out with it.
Something to watch out for is despair, because despair can creep up on us when we least expect it and totally throw a wrench in our works.
You might consider AS to be an enemy! Understanding your condition is only half the battle, the other half will be determined by what you do with yourself now and hereafter. Never give up the fight and when you get kicked in the gut--you will and we all do--keep going in spite of it all.
Your pal, Erik
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Post by Michael on Jul 31, 2010 16:15:25 GMT -5
AS is Asperger's syndrome, I was born with it This is going to be long but it's very funny! Spencer and his 2 brothers turned 18 this week, yesterday we had a surprise party for Spencer's 2 brothers (Spencer had the idea).... but one of his brothers (One of the triplets) had a idea of doing a surprise party for Spencer and his other brother!!. first party started at 3:30pm (They got their at 4, we hid our cars etc) When the brother who had the idea of the (2nd party) walked in, he was like "haha, this is very funny, I had a idea of going to the movies but going to the Moon's house for the surprise party for you two!" Everyone who knew about the 2 party, me, the 4 girls, and 3 guys.. we were trying to laugh.. thought he screwed the whole thing up!, his younger brother who's 15 years old, he was like "Shhh" but his brother who had idea of the 2nd party was like "No, no it's fine" *He thought he had idea for the party that the other 2 would be surprise, but he was, so he thought we changed it around. We changed the subject very fast so the other 2 brothers were like "uhhh, what?" first party got done at 6:30pm, we tricked Spencer and his brother into going to watch a movie in town.. Spencer was in the car with the girls, he was talking to the one in the back with him, the 2 in front were like "uhhh, what to we do!" then one was like "I left my money at my house" (Her house is the 2nd party) so we were driving there, I was in the other car, the brother who knew about this cuz he had the idea was driving, the other brother was talking to his younger one, talking about a phone.. then brother was like "Ohh, thought we were going to the movies, we missed the turn" then bro driving was like "Idk, I'm just following them" they were very surprise, had a great time, after 2nd party we went to a girl house who was in our group (Wasn't planned) and we watched a movie then talked.. I got home at 1:40am. Youth Activity is tonight, I'll see everyone who was at the parties tonight
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Post by Andrew the Penguin on Jul 31, 2010 20:13:52 GMT -5
Silly Micheal, forgetting us like that! *hugs* ^_^ I'll always be your friend. Ya know..... like as long as you don't kill all my family or somthing.
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Post by Michael on Aug 8, 2010 0:36:15 GMT -5
!, Me and Rachael are going to be hanging out 2 times this month... and I was invited to a sweet 16
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Post by hockeydude on Aug 8, 2010 1:22:47 GMT -5
Glad to hear it, dude! Things have taken a major swing up for me recently too! ;D
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Post by Michael on Aug 8, 2010 17:21:10 GMT -5
Glad to hear it, dude! Things have taken a major swing up for me recently too! ;D I'm glad things are better for you as well!. Rachael is coming with me to the sweet 16... will be super fun cuz the party is a dance !!
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Post by Michael on Aug 29, 2010 3:08:14 GMT -5
Gosh, I hate AS, haha.... :/ When anything gets good, in the end I think it gets bad. *I think* Me, Spencer, Rachael and her friend Megan went on a date this pass week.. Date started good, in the middle I was very quiet n stuff cuz of AS, Rachael even turned to me and asked if I was okay, kind of whispered it. I told her about AS- so she know about me having social problems etc. Tonight was a dance she was there... I feel like I can't stand a chance for her... she's always in a group of 10 or more, when I sit back and watch everyone else in crowds (Not just her) AS sucks. I told her I had to go home, the dance wasn't over yet, still had 30-35mins left.. she gave me a hug.... I haven't had a hug from anyone my age since efy June 22-27th 2009,Spencer gave me a hug at scout camp *He had to go home the night before it got over* Before the hug, she had a sadish face on. and grab my arm and looked at watch. But just cuz of AS, I get Anxiety more often then other people without AS. Rachael happened to get on facebook tonight, we just got done talking.. only for like 20mins Anyways, she said she couldn't go to sleep, she asked why I wasn't asleep. Told her I didn't tried She asked if anything is wrong. I touched on the subject a little about the dance. I didn't want to get way into the matter, cuz then it would just be more confusing then it aleardy is. When will I just find out she likes me for me, it's just very hard for me to see it.. Aubrey was like the 5th girl to stop talking to me, the girls from my ward don't even talk to me. I don't know anymore.
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Post by a7x16 on Aug 29, 2010 15:27:20 GMT -5
hmm....i ahev anxiety too (not saying mine is worse or the same or whatever) but you have to force yourself to do stuff if you can (you not always can)...but things will work out for ya
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Post by hockeydude on Aug 29, 2010 16:07:48 GMT -5
Well the clearest way to find out would be to ask her, but I know how if worst came to worst that might be bad for your friendship.
If you really, really want to know, I'd say the safest way would be to ask her friend. Just tell her "I like Rachael, but I don't want to ruin our friendship if she doesn't like me back." See if you can get an answer out of that. It's a fair question to ask because it deals wih respect, y'know?
But dude, I have to say. It sounds to me like your shyness is getting more in the way than AS here. Classes haven't started at BYU yet, but I've learned more social skills in the last 4 days than I have in the last 2 years.
If Rachael's dancing in a group, get in there! Just be like, "Hey can I join your group?"and people will move aside. I went to a dance last night by myself and walked out having met 40 new people and with 12 phone numbers (if you don't numbers out here you may not see the person again). All I did was throw myself out there and went waaaay out of my comfort zone. So if you can do that man, I think you'll see things start to change, even with AS.
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Post by Michael on Aug 29, 2010 22:22:28 GMT -5
I just don't see it happening with me asking to join the group. At efy everyone was "high" on efy etc, therefore they wanted to talk to everyone and hang out with them. Aubrey stopped talking to me, same with Derrick and Kayleb all 3 of them are in town from me. I don't dance in groups, dancing slow songs is hard enough All I been thinking today is that I screwed it up again. We talked last night and she told me my friend talked to her today, I asked what they talked about, she told me and asked if I thought he was going to say anything that I didn't want him to tell her. which was I like her... like a lot In the end I said I do like her but change the subject after a sec or something with no reply, soo idk what she thinks about that. I got a msg from her today saying " Mike you're pretty much always quiet lol. Well I thought the whole date was awesome!! I would totally love to do it again sometime. I thought the dance was so much funn I was glad I got to see you!
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