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Post by Erik Slack on Jul 17, 2009 13:20:27 GMT -5
I had a really fun date yesterday evening with one of my chick friends. She's a really awesome girl and I enjoyed her company. All we did was hang out at my house and watch a movie and talk, but my whole family was around us so it was proper and safe. It was a free, so I suppose it's more like hanging out, but I still showed her the respect I would if I was actually taking her someplace. What did I learn? Some girls have a natural talent to relate to others and are great fun to be around. I think that's something I'll be looking for when I've returned home from my mission and am ready to settle down.
Why am I telling you guys this? Because I'm hoping to prompt other guys to talk about some of their dates. I could learn a lot from you guys and I think I might teach you a thing or two myself.
Rules for responses besides the standard ones are... 1. just be careful not to give away much information about where you live, who you went on the date with, or any other details that you don't want anyone and everyone to know. Be web-safe!
2. tell us what you did, how ya felt, and what you learned from the experience.
I think this could be a really fun thread, especially as we get more people to participate at this forum.
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Post by Michael on Jul 17, 2009 16:27:37 GMT -5
Well, i haven't been on a date yet i guess you can call it a 'date' at efy when guys talk the girls to dinner and talk with them etc. i learn about them that way. it was fun
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Post by Erik Slack on Jul 17, 2009 21:55:07 GMT -5
Hey yeah I'd say that counts as a date! EFY is great training, I'd like to know more about it. Ya know...there's this lady in FRG (my youth organization) that's an ex-efy speaker, and she says that she could get us a guest blog from John-Bytheway. How awesome is that?!
So, Michael, my friend Tommy is posting a video on you-tube tonight that's all about dating, you should check it out! His animations are hilarious, although you may have to pause the clip sometimes to be able to read everything. I'll post a link on here tomorrow for ya all.
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Post by ldsgirl Aka Sayari on Jul 17, 2009 22:59:59 GMT -5
Hey yeah I'd say that counts as a date! EFY is great training, I'd like to know more about it. Ya know...there's this lady in FRG (my youth organization) that's an ex-efy speaker, and she says that she could get us a guest blog from John-Bytheway. How awesome is that?! Super awesome! I would love to see it!
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Post by hockeydude on Jul 17, 2009 23:45:16 GMT -5
Here's from my experience. My first few dates were a little rough, here's what they entitled: For my first official date, a girl invited me to go to a movie with her. Movies are the typical date, right? Not for the first. During a movie you barely talk to eachother. And we were unsure about what we were doing after, so that brought about lots of "umm's..." and unintended spending. Second is one I still shake my head about. My friend got busy and so I went over to a girl's house alone, and the parents were gone. It ended up being alright, but to start there was no plan. And while nothing bad happened the potential was there. SO HAVE A PLAN. After a while I started taking my turn asking for the dates: One really fun date is bowling. I think the couple we took that time was naturally a little more fun, but we were laughing, we were talking, and we HAD A PLAN about what to do after. Best of all, we escorted the ladies to the door and sealed the date properly. Another fun one is to set up like a big kickball game for a group date. We did a big priest-laurel game here not too long ago and invited some of our friends from other wards, etc. It was a BLAST! And once again, we had a plan about what to do after. Last one I'll mention was from just yesterday. Once again something active (disc golfing and then we chilled in the river for a bit) sort of spurred the date on, and afterwards I had to leave for hockey so we raided the McDonald's. So, sorry for the lengthy post, but key aspects of my favorite dates: - Something active or where you're talking - Something that's cheap, very easy when you use your imagination - Something that's PLANNED OUT, or where you at least have a base plan - You can be cute on your date. You're not getting married but if you're the guy, hold the doors for the ladies, escort them to the door, and just go out of your way. Girls, let us do these things for you, flirt if you want, and thank us generously and we will be delighted.
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Post by Michael on Jul 18, 2009 0:40:09 GMT -5
Hockydude,
What i like from what you said is plan. My friends whos a RM (Paul) I think i post about him while ago. anyways he plan a date 1 week, the told the ladies what to wear and what they will be doing. The next is escortting. The ladies love it when we do it i learn from efy and open the door for them car/door for a building etc. I will post date ideas i got from a youth thing i went to
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Post by Michael on Jul 18, 2009 0:56:36 GMT -5
It was a summer dating challenge but i couldn't do it becuse efy was in the week we were doing it in the month.
-Visit a museum -Make breakfast for dinner -Bonfire and smores -Shooting (w/care) -Scavnger hunt -Broom hockey -Hide 'n seek, -kick the can -CTF (Captrue the flag) -Red rover -Ask someone to teach you a skill (Pottery, Painting, Gardening) -Etiquette dinner (The teachers in my ward did this one time when i was in there with the ladies... was aweomse) -Progressive dinner from dollar menus -Go to a playground -Buy groceries with $3/ coupe and make dinner -Choose a them, go to Value Village and find "Costumes' take pictrues -Biking (Perhaps tandum) -Hiking -Picnic in the park -Frisbee -Kite flying -Board game night - Drive-in @ home -Visit a bookstore and read children's books -Roller-skating/blading -Canoeing (Take a picnic to an island) -Vist a pet store -Pumpkin or ice cream carving -Build with toys (Legos, tinker toys, blocks, Lincoln logs) -Climb a tree and read a book -Make goodies and then secretly deliver them -Name that tune challenge between copules -Tour a factory -Go to a high school production -Make sidewalk chalk drawings and have them judged by passer-by -Go to a drive-up restaurant with lawn chairs instead of car -Listen to mystery theatre radio drama (On KONA 610 AM on Saturday mornings, you could record and listen latter -Set up dinner in the back of a truck or moving van -Take a walk in city center and eat outside -Kidnap your parents and take them to dinner -Take a coloring book and crayons to on ice cream parlor and color while you eat and vist -Go to a movie in a costume to match the movie.
Thats all!
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Post by .:Amanda:. on Jul 18, 2009 2:01:19 GMT -5
I actually just got home from an AWESOME date about an hour ago. There was 3 couples, and my date Cole was a perfect gentleman. He started things out great when I opened the door when he came to pick me up. He said "You look great" which seems kind of insignificant but it was a huge confidence booster. I would definitely recommend lots of compliments, on both sides. Anyway, we went to his house and there were 3 couples. Each couple made a course of dinner and then we ate what we made. Then we played this hilarious game called Curses, if you ever see it in a store or something GET IT. Then we played Fugitive, which if you havent heard of it, it takes a while to explain. Finally, we went back to the house and decorated each other in whip cream, which turned into a whip cream fight. It was so fun and very low key. It didnt feel like just hanging out, but it didnt really feel like we were on a big date either. It was way chill and I had so much fun, I would definitely recommend a date like that.
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Post by Michael on Jul 18, 2009 3:03:03 GMT -5
Sounds awsome Amanda!
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Post by Erik Slack on Jul 18, 2009 10:20:51 GMT -5
Yeah 4 real! Next time you and your friends go on a date...invite me! ;D Lol j/k I could learn a thing or two from this Cole fellow
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Post by Erik Slack on Jul 18, 2009 10:27:00 GMT -5
Alright guys! Guess what, GUESS WHAT!! I'm uber excited to announce that FRG's first media clip has been published on YouTube just last night! Go and check it out at www.youtube.com/user/fairsrg. Please subscribe to our channel! Remember, the visuals are funny and cool, but it's in Tommy's carefully prepared speaking that you'll find the meat. Enjoy! ;D
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Post by .:Amanda:. on Jul 19, 2009 15:55:22 GMT -5
Great video Erik! I laughed. A lot. hahaha One question though. I've never heard the term "bagel". Care to explain?
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Post by Erik Slack on Jul 19, 2009 16:57:50 GMT -5
I've never heard of it before either. Tommy's from California, so maybe it's a CA thing? lol
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Post by Kohaku on Jul 19, 2009 23:33:57 GMT -5
maybe....lol
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Post by Erik Slack on Jul 22, 2009 17:02:50 GMT -5
Just the other day I invited a girl I knew from seminary over to my house to hang out. First of all folks...never do this unless you know your family will be there, which I did. Secondly, it wasn't really a date because I didn't actually plan it out. Besides wanting to hang out with her, I was hoping to get a book back she had borrowed from me, before she went off to college... In hindsight, I see several reasons why this unofficial date could have ended badly: it was unplanned, it was at my house, and I had a motive to invite her besides just having fun. As luck had it though, it turned out fine. Actually, it turned out great!! When the girl arrived, I offered her some lunch and then we took it upstairs and I put in a movie we had sitting around (I know, bad idea). Unknown to me was that this movie is an opera--you know those plays where the characters pause the story every 2 minutes to sing at the top of their lungs--and it was really hard to understand the story line. I thought for sure that my date would be like...wow, you invited me over to watch this??? and that she'd get bored and make up some lame excuse why she had to leave and that would be the last I ever saw of her. Instead to my great surprise, she was smiling and laughing! Phew! Seeing as how she was having fun I relaxed and ate my food. Since she seemed to understand what was going on in the movie, I would ask her a lot of questions about it and in this way I had an excuse to keep talking to her during the movie. There was about an hour and a half of that when the words "ACT TWO" flashed up on the screen and we both decided to shut it off. So then we went and played some games and did a lot of talking and laughing. A couple of hours went by and she had to leave for work. Something I really liked about this girl was that she was so cool about everything. She liked all the same kinds of music as me, she didn't complain when I fed her chili for lunch, and she was a great conversationalist. When you're with someone who's fun to talk to, you can be in the most boring place in the world and still have fun. The whole point of dating at this age is to learn what you should look for in a future spouse, right? I suppose that this date was a success then
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Post by Michael on Jul 23, 2009 0:44:20 GMT -5
Nice!, my stake is having a youth thing at my ward this Saturday i invited 5 girls from efy.. 4 lives in Yakima and are friends so they will come with each other if they do come. the other is Aburey!! she lives in town i invited her to my 50th ward reunion but she got home that night from Utah so she couldn't come... but i'm sure the 4 can come and if not Aburey can. i got it plan out so if Aburey can't i wont ask anyone on the last min
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Post by hockeydude on Jul 28, 2009 2:07:23 GMT -5
Ha, that's so weird that I know the Aubrey you're talking about. She's cool though! Anyway, new group date I just set up amongst some of my guy and girl friends in the stake. All the girls are gone this week, but the week after we have a 3-step group date planned out. 1 - Awesome Kickball Game 2 - Cliff Jumping (we have some sweet cliff jumping here) 3 - Out to Eat I'm honestly really excited, and would suggest it for anyone else. Think about it. It's cheap (we're thinking about having a BBQ instead of eating out for this reason), it's active, which both naturally and chemically makes things more fun, and with a group it will be so much less nerve-racking for some of the new "daters." (I made sure to include plenty of people, both guys and girls, who haven't been on a date yet). I'm excited!
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Post by .:Amanda:. on Jul 28, 2009 12:52:29 GMT -5
haha That sounds like a lot of fun! For me, I would probably be scared out of my mind for the cliff-jumping part, but I think that will make the date funner. It will get people to try new things and face some fears they might have. This is kind of a random idea, but for the kickball game, I think it would be fun if you tied each of the dates arms and legs together so it was like a partner kickball game, kind of like a 3-legged race. Just a thought haha. Good luck and have fun!
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Post by Erik Slack on Jul 30, 2009 10:53:10 GMT -5
That sounds super fun! I think it's pretty cool how you invited some kids who havn't been on dates yet; this will make a great first for them. I had to organize most of my first dates myself. It can be really tough to get a group date set up, ya know? What with conflicting schedules and all.
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Post by Michael on Jul 31, 2009 1:34:49 GMT -5
None of the girls came who i know from efy. but i made many new girls..
Man i still need to go on a date..
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