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Post by Remove on Sept 22, 2007 9:06:42 GMT -5
So i got this idea on the this or that bored when sakura asked a question that i thought could have its on section.
SOO.
Here you ask questions about situations and then people wwill tell you wat they would do.
Skauras example is when she said. "you really like this guy but you're not 16 do you stay friends ? do you blow up at him ? what do you say ?"
So you can awnser that and make you're own whatever.
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Post by sakura on Sept 22, 2007 9:23:56 GMT -5
Lol.gee thanks.
But the question really just popped into my head. But yeah I'd like to see what people say!
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Post by Remove on Sept 23, 2007 16:08:01 GMT -5
dang i ahd a good question hmmm wat was it...
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glenbob
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Post by glenbob on Oct 4, 2007 8:39:33 GMT -5
Well, if I were in that situation (the first one) I would want to stay friends with the person. There's no sense in burning bridges. I think the real trick is after you turn 16 to realize that there's no sense in getting into a relationship or steady dating. Missions are coming up. And remember, dating at that age isn't to find your eternal companion. It's to start figuring out what you're looking for in a companion, as well as to make friends and get to know a lot of people. It works much better that way.
Okay, here's my "what-if" situation:
What if there were someone kinda younger than you that you like as a friend, but they like you much more than that. You want to spend time with them as a friend but don't want to lead them on.
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Post by sakura on Oct 4, 2007 13:39:11 GMT -5
Hmmmm glenbob!lol j/k jk not suggesting anything lol
well i think i would tell them how i feel.i would say listen I like you a lot but as a friend.Perhaps explain to them and stuff..
i don't have a situation right now....
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Post by Andrew the Penguin on Oct 21, 2009 16:33:05 GMT -5
Umm... if I really liked a guy...
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Isn't that disobeying the Law of Chastity? Liking someone of your own gender?
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Post by shadow on Nov 28, 2009 16:16:28 GMT -5
no its not actually, Its not a sin to be gay its just a sin to act upon those feelings.
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Post by Andrew the Penguin on Nov 28, 2009 17:32:18 GMT -5
Whatever. It makes sense in my mind.
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Post by jamiecatslc on Nov 28, 2009 19:42:03 GMT -5
Of course i would still be friends with him... and if he doesn't like that, tough!
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Post by Sayari's other half on Nov 30, 2009 8:11:15 GMT -5
Lol oh no -_-' dangerous ideas going around here..Help Jenni!!!
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Post by ldsgirl Aka Sayari on Nov 30, 2009 11:02:55 GMT -5
Lol oh no -_-' dangerous ideas going around here..Help Jenni!!! The original statement had to do with avoiding serious relationships with people of the opposite gender until we are older and hopefully wiser! Now in the second case there are some people that have an attraction for the same gender. And the shadow points out that they are welcome in the church as members as long as they don't act upon these impulses. The church's policy is that no sexual relations should be allowed outside of marriage either, so we need to look at the term marriage. Marriage is defined as the union of one man and one woman. The church's law of chastity states that there is to be no sexual relationships outside of marriage! If you are single there is to be no sexual relationships period!
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Post by Erik Slack on Nov 30, 2009 11:26:22 GMT -5
Well said ldsgirl. Since we're on the topic, let me bring up something that really bothers me about it.
I've observed many LDS kids who openly claim to hate gays/lesbians, and others who befriend them and simply accept it as part of who their new friend is. I think that to do either is a big mistake.
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Post by Sayari's other half on Dec 1, 2009 2:51:25 GMT -5
thanks Jenni Well Erik that is kind of a difficult thing.because you see,we may not like that part of people however we do have to respect it.We should not I think hate them and we SHOULD accept them for who they are.However we can try and influence them in the right way.Tactfully.I agree with what you say but we should not let our differences influence our friendships if you understand what I mean.
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Post by Andrew the Penguin on Dec 1, 2009 17:03:07 GMT -5
Well said ldsgirl. Since we're on the topic, let me bring up something that really bothers me about it. I've observed many LDS kids who openly claim to hate gays/lesbians, and others who befriend them and simply accept it as part of who their new friend is. I think that to do either is a big mistake. Yep. I used to not like Lesbians/Gays, but then, after much being yelled at by a guy I know who is gay, I don't accept it, but I don't really hate it. Dislike, yes. Try to wriggle them out of being it, yes. If they wouldn't change, then stop, yes.
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Post by shadow on Dec 1, 2009 19:18:07 GMT -5
Its so common in my school its either a big joke or they do it for the heck of it, as in "hey no girl likes me maby I can hook up with a guy!!" as you can see there are plenty of reasons for me to not like my school but gays dont really bother me because I grew up with them
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Post by Erik Slack on Dec 2, 2009 10:25:03 GMT -5
You're right Sayari, we should accept them and we shouldn't withhold friendship to them. They're just people who don't understand what they're doing--all people need good friends. But no friend is worth compromising your standards for, and in my opinion if you don't speak out against their decision then you are not really defending your beliefs. I like how Andrew put it: "I don't accept it, but I don't really hate it."
I have a friend and coworker (same person) who is a smoker and porn addict. Are we still friends? Heck yeah! Do I accept his behavior as appropriate or normal? Heck no! I don't rub these issues in his face, I just simply don't accept that these issues are a part of who my friend is. You might ask how we're still friends...the fact is he appreciates that I'm honest with him and he has even tried to quit smoking.
Love the sinner, hate the sin.
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Post by Sayari's other half on Dec 3, 2009 2:08:42 GMT -5
Yup That's what I mean.The best way to help them is by being their friend!
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