Post by Remove on Sept 6, 2011 0:09:03 GMT -5
I'm visiting with my grandma for the next few days until thursday. I've found a few documents and things while sorting through her shed. One of the documents was a psychiatric report from when she was trying for custody. My grandmother had me read it aloud basically saying it made her feel good because it said she was 'normal' and my grandpa wasn't.
This report said some things that were eye opening for me. i knew my mom had a rough family life. But, I never fully understood and now, being away and knowing this I love her more then ever. She's trying to break this cycle of abuse/teenage pregnancies/failed marriages/jail time ect that has affected her&every single one of my moms 15+ brother and sisters. All of her siblings kids are ending up messed up. My mom really tried to provide me and my siblings a stable homelife. Away from all this stupid family drama.
Anyways, in this document some things were said that really bothered me. I'd like to talk to her about it but it puts my grandmother in an unsavory light. It kinda horrifyed me actually. And, If my mom doesn't know about these things I don't want to tell her. I'd never want to view my mother the way i'm now viewing my grandmother.
Also, There was 40 pages of handwritting of my grandma. The first page i skimmed basically was talking about how everyone in her life failed her. Her ex husbad, the church her kids ect. The writing was directed to her children/grandchildren. It said something like "you kids." ect. It was clear she wanted her kids to read it. I took these papers and I'm going to read them And, after that i'll try and figure out if i'll give them to my mom. Or file them away from everyone.. I'm so interested in family history. And, my grandmother IS an amazing women. She is. She has this son who had a lot of medical issues and he's needed care his entire life. my grandma traded her life for his.
Is it wrong to talk to my mom about this document or the pages I'm going to read?
Any advice at all? I'm really quite stirred up about all this
This report said some things that were eye opening for me. i knew my mom had a rough family life. But, I never fully understood and now, being away and knowing this I love her more then ever. She's trying to break this cycle of abuse/teenage pregnancies/failed marriages/jail time ect that has affected her&every single one of my moms 15+ brother and sisters. All of her siblings kids are ending up messed up. My mom really tried to provide me and my siblings a stable homelife. Away from all this stupid family drama.
Anyways, in this document some things were said that really bothered me. I'd like to talk to her about it but it puts my grandmother in an unsavory light. It kinda horrifyed me actually. And, If my mom doesn't know about these things I don't want to tell her. I'd never want to view my mother the way i'm now viewing my grandmother.
Also, There was 40 pages of handwritting of my grandma. The first page i skimmed basically was talking about how everyone in her life failed her. Her ex husbad, the church her kids ect. The writing was directed to her children/grandchildren. It said something like "you kids." ect. It was clear she wanted her kids to read it. I took these papers and I'm going to read them And, after that i'll try and figure out if i'll give them to my mom. Or file them away from everyone.. I'm so interested in family history. And, my grandmother IS an amazing women. She is. She has this son who had a lot of medical issues and he's needed care his entire life. my grandma traded her life for his.
Is it wrong to talk to my mom about this document or the pages I'm going to read?
Any advice at all? I'm really quite stirred up about all this