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Post by emowriter on Jun 21, 2011 13:49:08 GMT -5
so some of you may know i have a cutting problem and i want to talk to my bishop about to you know get help and get it off my chest so i can start getting better and start repenting. my only problem is i dont know how to start. can some one help me please?
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Post by Jayda on Jun 21, 2011 15:19:02 GMT -5
Pray for strength and courage and first thing when you get to church tell the Bishop that you need to speak to him. Then you can't get out of it. I know it seems really hard, but just go in there as quickly as possible and get it all out. Explain to him what's been going on and that'll start off the repentance process The first step seems so hard, but you're not alone, and if you take that first step the rest of the journey becomes easier a little bit at a time
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Post by Michael on Jun 22, 2011 18:53:51 GMT -5
I had to talk to my Bishop about something this year, I wrote him a letter explaining everything, then he sat up a time to sit down with me and talk about it, I would do that, pray like what Jayda said too
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Post by emowriter on Jun 24, 2011 14:43:34 GMT -5
my only worry is that he'll tell my parents i dont want to "stir the pot" my house is just starting to settle down. and i dont want it spread through my ward. i know they say its all confidential but ive had it happen before. i just need to tell someone!
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Post by Jayda on Jun 24, 2011 15:00:23 GMT -5
Your Bishop cannot tell anyone anything that you don't give him permission to. He'll give you advice (he'll definitely say that he thinks you should talk to your parents about it, because ultimately you should if you haven't yet) but ask him beforehand if it's confidential. Has a Bishop been the one that told people what you've said? Because that's not right, if it was a Bishop. But if not, then trust the Bishop. He's there to help you and is guided by the Spirit. I know it's confidential because I've talked to him about stuff that I didn't want spreading, either, and absolutely no one knows. Only him and me. I promise, it'll be okay, and it'll be oh-so worth it The worry and the stress you feel about going to the Bishop is a small price to pay for finally getting through things and repenting and knowing and feeling completely and totally worthy It's such an amazing feeling. Just work up the courage and go. You never know when your last day is. Do not put off the day of your repentance, as the scriptures say. I made excuses not to go literally for YEARS. Anything could've happened to me, including death. I'm surprised it didn't. But you don't know what'll happen so you never want to put off repentance. I promise, it's worth it. And you need to do it. You even have to do it, if you're going on a stand point of following God's commandments. Fear not what man can do to you, for the Lord thy God is with thee. I know it'd be horrible if things somehow got out of hand and people found out (which shouldn't be the case) but if it does... you'll have repented and done what you need/have to. You can do it We all believe in you. Your Heavenly Father and Brother, Jesus Christ believe in you. It's so easy after you take the first step.
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Post by emowriter on Jun 24, 2011 15:08:57 GMT -5
thanks, i think my first step is going to be at girls camp this year on the day of testimony meeting. he's going to come up for the day and i think im going to let him read my poetry book i think thats the only way i can get this started
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Post by Michael on Jun 24, 2011 16:23:32 GMT -5
Good idea, and as Jayda said, the Bishop will not tell anyone unless you tell him it's alright, in my letter I told him not to tell anyone, not even my parents, when we were talking he said it's not his job to tell you're parents or anyone else, it's your job to tell Heavenly Father and if you want, anyone else.
I hope you have a wonderful time at girl's camp
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Post by jamiecatslc on Jun 25, 2011 2:33:29 GMT -5
I have to talk to my bishop too... I'm scared about that. I know he won't tell any one but I'm friends with his daughter and his son is in my class too...
uuuggh...
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Post by Michael on Jun 25, 2011 2:42:28 GMT -5
You'll both be fine, I promise it.
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Post by emowriter on Jul 12, 2011 15:10:31 GMT -5
well ive got the ball rolling everyone is really concerened though and its really hard to talk about the abuse. but if i dont tell someone itll drive me insane
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Post by shadow on Jul 12, 2011 23:41:13 GMT -5
Don't put it off, the more you do the harder it becomes to talk to him.
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Post by Michael on Jul 13, 2011 0:34:29 GMT -5
Yeah, what Shadow said.. I know about that lol...
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Post by Jayda on Jul 13, 2011 17:31:44 GMT -5
Agreed!
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Post by emowriter on Jul 14, 2011 15:25:51 GMT -5
i talked to him and i had an anxiety attack! its crazy how nervous i get talking about this stuff
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Post by Michael on Jul 14, 2011 16:47:30 GMT -5
I know what you feel like, my thoughts were running threw my mind when I told my Bishop some stuff
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Post by zenith on Jul 26, 2011 23:21:39 GMT -5
Emowriter,
Talking to your bishop is a very interesting experience. I have no doubt you had an anxiety attack, but I know you can work through it. On this forum, I never mentioned it before, but I have made myself so anonymous, I don't mind sharing what I am about to say.
I know you can make it through this. It may seem hard, and it may seen difficult, but you can. You have already made a wonderful effort. The bishop is there to help you. From the sound of it, it is a consistent problem, but if not, I ask your forgiveness.
For years, I had a pornography issue. I had it in my head not to talk to the bishop, whose children were in my age group. It is very hard to talk to him, at first that is. I would never have been able to get through it if it wasn't for my bishop helping me along the way. If you have the opportunity, I would suggest trying to meet with him once a week, maybe between meetings or something. Having a constant feeling of the spirit will help you. Find a time everyday to read your scriptures, preferably the Book of Mormon. Pray night and day, and whenever you are tempted. I would also recommend doing service to others. It doesn't have to be big, it can be as simple as holding doors, saying hello, or whatever else you can think of.
Bring the spirit into your life, and check with the Bishop often, and I promise you that you can break this problem.
Zenith
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Post by ldsgirl Aka Sayari on Jul 29, 2011 1:10:15 GMT -5
Emowriter, Talking to your bishop is a very interesting experience. I have no doubt you had an anxiety attack, but I know you can work through it. On this forum, I never mentioned it before, but I have made myself so anonymous, I don't mind sharing what I am about to say. I know you can make it through this. It may seem hard, and it may seen difficult, but you can. You have already made a wonderful effort. The bishop is there to help you. From the sound of it, it is a consistent problem, but if not, I ask your forgiveness. For years, I had a pornography issue. I had it in my head not to talk to the bishop, whose children were in my age group. It is very hard to talk to him, at first that is. I would never have been able to get through it if it wasn't for my bishop helping me along the way. If you have the opportunity, I would suggest trying to meet with him once a week, maybe between meetings or something. Having a constant feeling of the spirit will help you. Find a time everyday to read your scriptures, preferably the Book of Mormon. Pray night and day, and whenever you are tempted. I would also recommend doing service to others. It doesn't have to be big, it can be as simple as holding doors, saying hello, or whatever else you can think of. Bring the spirit into your life, and check with the Bishop often, and I promise you that you can break this problem. Zenith Good advice Zenith!
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Post by emowriter on Aug 29, 2011 17:23:33 GMT -5
ive started back to church. and people are already buzzing about it. saying that i have allot of guts showing up by myself. it makes me so nervous. i broke into tears in sacrament yesterday i felt like a total idiot. i wish my boyfriend/fiance was still here and i really wish he was lds.
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Post by Andrew the Penguin on Sept 21, 2011 8:39:18 GMT -5
Dear E.W., I am SO proud of you! I used to be the only member of my family who went to Church or Mutual, and I tried to always go. ^_^ Sounds to me like your Ward members are either impressed, or surprised. Neither is bad. Can you tell why it makes you nervous? Or are you like how I was, rather anxious of a child when speaking to any sort of group. There are two things that truly helped me rid myself of this problem: I learned, as in prayed to God and recieved one of the most amazing spiritual moments I ever had, that I am a son of God. Then, I learned, truly believing, that all are my Brothers and Sisters in the spirit. I love that about the Church. E.W., you are my sister. And just for that, I love you. Jesus loves you even more fully than I do. Heavenly Father, too. Same with Zenith, Jayda, J.T., Jamie, Jenni, and Michael. They're all our brothers and sisters, and we can love them unconditionally (meaning: without conditions) just as Christ does. I truthfully testify this in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen. I'll pray for you, E.W. P.S. I find it amazing how brave you are, to overcome that nervousness and anxiety, and to go to your Bishop and Ward. It's a marvel. Good job, E.W., you have sought for good change in your life. I'm proud of you.
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Post by emowriter on Sept 28, 2011 18:00:55 GMT -5
thanks muchly i just dont know how much longer i can go. im getting so sick. its sad. and my anxiety stems from bad things that happened so crouds scare me. i try my best to control myself but its hard. i seem to have this compulsive need to wash my hands (oddly) every time i get nervous or i start digging my nails into my wrist. i did allot of damage when i was sitting in the bishops office. any ways. thanks for the love and support
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Post by emowriter on Oct 10, 2011 18:22:49 GMT -5
so looks like i have more to tell my bishop. im struggling with my faith. and i just dont feel right being in church sitting in the chapel and listening to the brothers and sisters feels wrong. i dont know what to think or feel. i had an anxiety attack in sacrament. and i cant take that any more.
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Post by ldsgirl Aka Sayari on Oct 11, 2011 21:55:53 GMT -5
so looks like i have more to tell my bishop. im struggling with my faith. and i just dont feel right being in church sitting in the chapel and listening to the brothers and sisters feels wrong. i dont know what to think or feel. i had an anxiety attack in sacrament. and i cant take that any more. I'm sorry that you are having to struggle with so many things at once. I will add you to my prayers asking our heavenly Father to give you the strength and understanding to deal with these burdens. May God bless you can keep you safe!
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